Update on Harvy

Be still my yearning heart. Be still and know.

I have long pondered what to share in this post. I know what I wish I could say, but I don’t know how to share what I must say. My heart cries out within me yearning to tell a different story, a different outcome, to tell you about a knight in shining armor that is on his way with good news.

But that is not today’s reality.

Today’s reality is something entirely different.

And since I can’t seem to find the right words to share that reality, I will just cut to the chase:

Harvy is at the end of his life. He is in pain, unable to move, and his body is slowly giving out on him. The impact on Harvy, his mother, our team in Nicaragua, and my own heart is tangible and soul-wrenching.

5 days ago the doctors refused to help him any further. They discontinued all medical support and literally told Sylvia and Walter to “Take him home and let him die.” It was said as coldly as it looks. And it seemed to officially mark the beginning of the end.

What That Means

We knew this season could come, but we had all hoped beyond hope that the Lord would work a miracle. And while we all still believe that He could, we also have to face the reality of the situation – that the Lord’s answer to our pleas for healing could be, “No.” That the Lord is doing something far beyond our comprehension that we may never understand.

We must walk in what we profess: that He is faithful and works everything together for good even when it costs us – his children – dearly in this life.

As such, three days ago Walter and I had one of the hardest conversations either of us have ever had. We started planning Harvy’s funeral and burial. For those of you that have lost loved ones, you know how hard that is, especially if they were much younger than you. But it must still be done.

During the discussion it became apparent that Sylvia would not be able to pay for the funeral or any of the costs. Her funds have been fully depleted fighting for Harvy’s life. Similarly we have far exceeded our own budget trying to help manage his pain, get him treatment, and help with emergency trips to the hospital.

We Need Help

And so, I come before you now, asking for help. I know it is out of the ordinary for me to directly ask you to give, but many of you have shared with me the impact Harvy and Sylvia have had on your life. As such, I wanted you to have an opportunity to participate in helping us serve and love them both by helping Sylvia say goodbye to her baby for the last time.

How can you help? We need to raise $1,500 to be able to buy a coffin, a plot of ground, pay for embalming, and cover the cost of other cultural aspects important in Nicaragua.

And so, if what I described above is the case for you; if Harvy, his mother, or his story has touched your heart, please help us in this cause. Even $10 can make a difference so that together we can love Harvy and his mother as the family they are – our family in Christ.

If you want to give, you can follow the link below or send a check made out to “Heritage Church” with “With One Hope – Harvy” in the memo line to:

Heritage Church
4201 Heritage Trace Pkwy
C/O Jim Brawner
Fort Worth, TX 76244

Hope Doesn’t Die

That said, I also want to share that while our hearts and souls are heavy with the weight of watching him leave us, we are also striving to trust in the Lord that His plan and timing is perfect. Harvy shares this hope and this belief as well. Even in the face of suffering and death he has kept the Lord is His place – above all else.

And so we are all actively placing our hope in this: that while today’s reality hurts deeply, we do not live for today. We live for the hope of tomorrow, of what is to come.

I believe the reason I am longing for and yearning for a white knight to come give good news is because someday one will. Jesus WILL ride his horse to our rescue. He WILL heal ALL our wounds. And for those of us that have passed away, He WILL raise us to life anew.

Paul says it best:

Brothers and sisters, we do not want you to be uninformed about those who sleep in death, so that you do not grieve like the rest of mankind, who have no hope. For we believe that Jesus died and rose again, and so we believe that God will bring with Jesus those who have fallen asleep in him…For the Lord himself will come down from heaven, with a loud command, with the voice of the archangel and with the trumpet call of God, and the dead in Christ will rise first. After that, we who are still alive and are left will be caught up together with them in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air. And so we will be with the Lord forever.

1 Thessalonians 4:13-17

We also believe and therefore speak, because we know that the one who raised the Lord Jesus from the dead will also raise us with Jesus and present us with you to himself…Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.

2 Corinthians 4:15-18

And so we will grieve Harvy when he is gone. We will mourn him and miss his presence in our lives. And we will probably always wonder what the purpose of his suffering was.

But we all hope to grieve and mourn Harvy as ones who have hope in the Lord. Hope that Jesus will raise Harvy again. Hope that Jesus will raise you again, and us again. And hope that when we have all been raised into glory, we will be together again as we celebrate the Lord forever.

Until then, I am grateful to everyone who has prayed for Harvy or given to support him over the past 5 years. I truly believe your support helped extend his life for multiple years and gave his mother more time with her baby.

I do not have the words to express the gratitude we all have for that.

If you can help financially, please do. As always, we also covet your prayers – right now more than ever. These are delicate, hard subjects and we desire to speak truth with wisdom, but also ask the Lord for protection from the evil one who would so eagerly desire to pounce during a weak moment.

And most of all, we ask for prayers that the Lord would either heal Harvy via an instantaneous miracle or take him home. It is a hard prayer, but one we have discussed as a family and believe is appropriate to share.

Thank you again for loving Harvy, Sylvia, and our team. We are eternally grateful.

Online fundraising for Sending Harvy Home

4 Comments

  1. Robert Middleton says:

    It hurts to see him suffer and to go. Thank you all for caring for him.
    We will send a check.
    Gigi

  2. chris says:

    Thank you, Gigi and Papa! It means so much.

  3. Al and Diane says:

    Prayers continue. Our hearts go out to all who love Harvy. Donation is being sent.

  4. chris says:

    Thank you, Didi and Albert!

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